Receiving Critical Feedback – A Challenge

feedback-not-for-meIn a previous post I shared the leadership challenge of giving critical feedback in today’s over celebrated and politically correct environment.  I now want to share a few tips on how to receive critical feedback, which is a leadership development must.  If you want to improve you have to be able to receive and process critical feedback.  To be even more clear, I believe you will not significantly improve as a person until you can learn to receive and process feedback that can be challenging to hear.

Here are a few tips when receiving critical feedback:

  1. Feedback isn’t your identity – My identity is in Jesus Christ and whatever feedback I receive I refuse to let it hang on me to change who I am.  Without rooting yourself in who you are you will become what everyone wants you to become instead of who you were made to be.  If feedback is your identity then you will have a fear of criticism and you will search out affirmation from people instead of God.
  2. Discern the personal investment on the feedback you are about the receive – If someone is investing in you and on your future potential you should be completely open to hear and receive their feedback.  Conversely if a complete stranger gives you feedback you have to cautiously determine how and even if you need to adjust or respond.  You don’t need to respond to all criticism!
  3. Receive the feedback with open ears – If your posture becomes immediate defense when someone attempts to give you feedback your potential for improvement declines.
  4. Thank the person who is giving you feedback – There is no reason to do anything but thank the person who gives you the feedback.  It doesn’t mean you agree with them, but assume that they want you to improve.
  5. Consider and Pray about the feedback and how you should change / respond – You don’t have to immediately change.  Likely it took you decades to form your style and your mannerisms.  Changing it overnight can be clunky so be patient.  If you should adjust then adjust.   A big leadership mistake is to receive critical feedback but never do anything about it, even though it was outstanding.



My Application Mix

UnknownI’m a fan of productivity and applications that can “improve” my efficiency.  Like most productivity junkies it’s your system instead of your apps that make you more productive however finding the next greatest app is always on my mind.  After years of tweaking I think I’ve probably got the best application mix I can ever recall, and I’ve finally dumped Outlook!  Here is the rundown (Mac applications only) and for each application below I own the iPhone application as well.

Evernote Premium – Yes I pay for the premium subscription and yes it’s worth it.  Evernote is my digital notebook and the place where meeting notes, invoices, guitar chords for songs, messages, etc. are stored.

Airmail 3 – I’ve used Airmail before but never converted it to my primary email client.  When version 3 was released I thought I’d give it another go and I’ve now converted 100% to it.  With integration to 2Do and Fantastical it’s enhanced my productivity substantially.

Fantastical 2 – A great calendar application and definitely worth the cost.  Integrates into Airmail and allows simple calendar entry and multiple calendar access.

2Do – I’ve come to realize there is no perfect task management system, but 2Do is about as close as it gets.  I use to be an Omnifocus user but it just became too cumbersome to constantly tweak.  I need to enter tasks and complete tasks in a flowing manner.  Omnifocus seemed like a aircraft carrier, while 2Do seems like a sleek destroyer that is much more nimble.

Olive Tree Bible Software – I’ve used it so long and added texts to it’s library it has become indispensable.

Day One App version 2 – Journaling is important!

Microsoft 365 subscription – Because you have to.